Being an adoptive parent takes a lot of work, definitely more than being a biological parent, because becoming a parent through adoption is a long and difficult process, both for the mother and father, but also for the adopted baby or child. The emotional development of an adopted baby or child may rise problems due to the place the child comes from. If he or she was abandoned or beaten or suffered any kind of abuse, the emotional development may take longer because the child has to get accustomed to the new home and the new parents. Even if the child is bigger, already passed the baby or toddler stage, he or she definitely have emotional development issues and need a lot of love and care.
For a child that missed a part of the childhood because of neglect, emotional development is difficult, because he or she must live the missing parts of his/her life. So, if your child is for example, 4 years old and wants the bottle, do not refuse that because this is a very important part of the healing process and of the bonding between parent and child and it is crucial for the emotional development of the child. The child may need to cradle, to be bottle fed, to play baby games or to use a pacifier. You should understand these needs because they are really important in the emotional development of the adopted child. For a baby may not be that hard because the baby does not remember abuse or neglect or has not been through this at all, but for an older child, to relive different stages of infancy is absolutely normal and necessary and will help the child’s emotional development.
Emotional development is an issue that many adoptive parents do not know how to handle, but talking to a psychologist may help them understand their child and help the child to establish a connection with the new family. Bonding is extremely important in the emotional development of the child so, as soon as he or she gets home, the parents must spend with the child as much time as possible to help the child relate not only to them, as people, but also to the new surroundings – the house, the food, the smells.