When death or any other loss such as divorce take place, children need time to understand, to adjust and be ready for a lot of questions. Although you may pass through a difficult period of time, don’t get angry at your child. Remember that a child has just started to know this world and he has so many things to discover.
The loss of a lover person is like a storm, affection your child’s emotional architecture. Chidlren have less skills and less time to adjust to death and loss, so you have to help them. When death, separation are anticipated it’s easier for children as they have enough time to anticipate, think, analyze and slowly reshape relationships. Plus, the process will less painful for them.
During the grieving process, a child will ask you what is cancer, what is death and many other related questions. The primary emotion during such a sad event is the fear of the unknown and fear of the future. To prevent your children’s toughts be dominated by fear, stress and sadness, talk to him about as for a child there’s no “not thinking about it” or ” putting it out of their minds.”
There are children who won’t talk about a sad event, while others won’t not talk about it to other people. Nonetheless, grief is normal, but if it persists beyond six months, or the capacity of chils is compromised, professional help is a must.
Share your own feelings with your child about death or a loss. While you’re having these discussions with your child, try to understand what he feels and how he perceive a death or a loss.
Additionally, be ready to repeat the same information several times and to give examples to help them understand what is happening.