Pacifier Use May Damage Emotional Development

Filed under: Emotional Development - 02 Oct 2012  | Spread the word !

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A new study has revealed that pacifiers use can damage the emotional development of baby boys. The study showed that pacifiers stop babies from experiencing with facial expression, which potentially has important negative consequences on their normal development.

The study was performed by specialists from the University of Wisconsin-Madison. This is the first study made on the influence that pacifiers use has on infants. The results are quite shocking as the study actually shows that pacifiers damage the emotional development of babies.


The study focused on a group of people of collage age. The group was first divided into men who used pacifiers when being infants and men who did use them. The first group scored much lower on common emotional intelligence tests than the second group. The same study indicated that if men who used pacifiers scored lower, girls were not affected at all by pacifiers use.

According to researchers, babies learn to express their own emotions through body language. In fact, they use facial expressions and movements to be able to learn how to express such emotions. A pacifier will play a negative role on this matter, as it will stop the infant from learning.


“We can talk to infants, but at least initially they aren’t going to understand what the words mean. So the way we communicate with infants at first is by using the tone of our voice and our facial expressions,” one of the authors of this study, Paula Niedenthal, said according to Medical News Today. The researcher also added that parents usually take the results of such tests very personally. “Now these are suggestive results and they should be taken seriously,” Niedenthal concluded.

Is pacifier use a bag thing?

According to Niedenthal, pacifier use, despite the results of this study, is not a bad thing. “Probably not all pacifiers use is bad at all times, so how much is bad and when? We already know from this work that nighttime pacifier use doesn’t make a difference,” the specialist explained.


Parents should only be aware to not inhibit any of the body’s emotional representational system. Facial expressions are important for babies, who have not learned to speak yet. A pacifier can limit the baby’s ability to explore emotions, this is why parents should be very careful. Actually, parents should be attentive at anything that may affect the baby’s emotional development.

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Ways to Develop Your Child’s Self Esteem

Filed under: Emotional Development - 24 Sep 2012  | Spread the word !

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Children are very sensitive when it comes to the way they perceive themselves. Self-esteem is your child’s passport to lifetime mental health and social happiness. Additionally, it is the foundation of a child’s well being and the key to success as an adult. At all ages, they way you feel about yourself affects the way you act. Think about a time when you really felt good about yourself. Everything seemed to work perfectly.

Here are some tips on how to raise your child’s self-esteem in order to grow up harmonious and mentally healthy.

  • Self-image is how one perceives oneself. The child looks in the mirror and likes the person he sees. He looks inside himself and is comfortable with the person he sees. He must think of himself as a person who can make things happen. The main source of a child’s self-worth are the parents.


  • Lack of a good self-imagery leads to behavioural problems. Most of the behavioural problems come from poor self-worth in parents as well as children. Children tend to imitate their parents’ behaviour. Therefore, if the child sees his parents optimistic and upbeat all the time, he will copy their behaviour. On the other hand, if the child perceives his parents as down and stressed all the time, then he will have the tendency to copy their behaviour.


  • Improve your own self-confidence. Self esteem is acquired, not inherited. Certain parenting traits and certain character traits, such as anger and fearfulness, are learned in each generation. If you, as a parent, suffer from low self esteem, take the steps to heal yourself and break the family pattern. Make sure you “polish your mirror” so that your children will only see the best in you. 


  • Play with your child. By doing so, you will learn a lot about your child during play. Playtime gives your child the message that he is worth your time and that he is valuable to you. Children learn through play. Therefore, it improves a child’s behaviour by giving him feelings of importance and accomplishment. Let your child initiate the play. You will see how much good will do this to him.


  • Address your child by name. From the very beginning, children learn to associate how you use their name with the message you have and the behaviour you expect. Parents often use a child’s nickname or first name only in casual dialogue. They beef up the message by using the full name to make a deeper impression. Always use his/her name regardless of the situation.


Every infant whose needs are met has self-esteem built in. Like an arborist caring for a tree, the parents’ job is to nurture what is there, do what they can to structure the child’s environment so that s/he grows strong and straight, and avoid whittling away at the tender branches.

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Teenage Boys And Their Emotional Behavior

Filed under: Tips And Tricks - 21 Aug 2012  | Spread the word !

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Just as in the case of teenage girls, boys can have their very own issues in this age period. One clear fact is that the adolescence is a highly influential moment for boys and girls. Therefore, their parents have to be careful with their teenage children, so that they can monitor their emotional development in the proper way. It is important for young boys to understand this period and to have the full support of his parents, especially the one of the fathers, as they may have comfort issues in relation to their mothers about their new found feelings.


One of the main distresses that causes an imbalance in the emotional development in teenage boys is actually connected to another type of development – the physical one. Since this is the age in which the body matures and goes through a lot of transformations, many young boys can feel like they have been left behind in the process by other boys of their age. Some may become very tall, others may remain short. Regardless of the situation, being the shortest one or the tallest one in school, for example, can be really hard for a boy, especially if the others are teasing him about it.

Parents should start by explaining the ways in which people physically develop from a younger age. Through this, the boys will mature with the idea that all people start growing and maturing at a certain age, but that this process is not the same for all of them. They should also be aware of the fact that there is nothing wrong with them or with the others, if they look differently. These talks will help boys understand the fact that they should not mock someone who is different, but also that they should not be affected by others’ mockeries.


Another issue that is connected with the emotions felt by boys at this age is the attraction to girls. This is always a reason for bullying and for teasing in schools, as there is always one boy left who has not kissed a girl so far, for example. In this case, again the boy will need someone to talk to, someone that will know how to comfort them and how to help them respond and, eventually, how to actually end up kissing a girl he likes.


Violence is the final aspect that should be considered in the case of teenage boys. In the past few years, numerous cases of violence among young girls have surfaced, surpassing the number of incidents in which boys where involved. However, this does not mean that these violent acts do not happen anymore. There are two sides in this situation, as the boy may be the one who acts violently or the one upon which it is violently acted by others.

Parents should pay attention to the way in which their boys conduct their actions on a daily basis, so that they can notice the signs of changes, which can unveil the fact that their children may have started to be bullies or victims. Computer games and television programs filled with violence should be avoided. However, you also have to explain that violence is not the solution and that if they are victims, they must talk to you, so that they will be able to understand these normal facts from the start.


In all these cases, parents must find the best way to have their sons communicate with them. This should be the main concern as a parent, as you cannot fix an issue if you do not know about it. More to this, you may be informed about these problems by other people, which will lead to an even more complex situation. Make sure that your teenage boys considers the two of you as his friends and that he can tell you anything. In addition to this, you should also be sure that your reactions are appropriate. From the combination of these two aspects, you will be able to find out if the emotional development of your teenage boy has taken a wrong turn or not and, if yes, how exactly you can fix it.

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Children And Their Emotions

Filed under: Emotional Development - 30 Jul 2012  | Spread the word !

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Emotional development is a complex and sometimes difficult task that begins in infancy and continues into adulthood. A few of the first emotions that can be recognised in babies are anger, joy, fear and sadness.

As they grow up, they start to develop a sense of self and more complex emotions emerge such as shame, guilt, pride and empathy, but also many others.




Emotions are important because they are children’s responses to a wide variety of things that they experience every day. Additionally, emotions have a very important impact on their behaviour, attitude and on how they learn to enjoy life.

Parents also have a huge influence on their children’s emotions, so they should be very careful and responsible. Parents are so important because they are the first and the main persons who respond to their children’s emotions, but parents also provide models of how to manage feelings and how to behave. Fortunately, by talking with their children, they can help them manage their emotions, but school staff also has a huge role.




Experiencing various emotions has several components:

  • physical responses such as hormone levels, breathing and heart rate
  • feelings that children begin to recognize and learn to name them
  • judgements and thoughts that are associated with feelings
  • action signals such as fight or escape


When children express their emotions, both through behaviour and words, are influenced by several things such as:

  • values related to inappropriate and appropriate ways of expressing emotions that are learned from their parents, teachers and carers
  • children’s temperaments
  • emotional behaviours learned through observation and experience
  • how well children’s emotions are met
  • various kinds of stress that both children and their family are under

There are also other reasons why children express their emotions and feelings so differently. Every child is unique, so his response to various things, problems and experiences is very different. Variation in children’s emotional response can also be influenced by cultural values, severe and chronic disorders, as well as social circumstances and children’s temperaments.



There are children that are encouraged by their families to express a wide range of emotions, but there are also other families that encourage their children not to display certain emotions, so children express their emotions based on what  is regarded by them as normal within their family and culture.

Parents have an important role for helping their children learn and accept feelings and to understand the connection between behaviour and feelings. Parents, carers and school staff have to:

  • understand children’s emotions and feelings
  • help children recognize and understand their own emotions
  • set limits on inappropriate expression of emotions
  • be a role model



All these steps are very important as children are developing and they will soon become adults. To conclude, parents, relatives, carers and school staff have to be aware of these problems and be very careful how they behave.

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Phases Of Emotional Development In Teenage Girls

Filed under: Tips And Tricks - 17 Jul 2012  | Spread the word !

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The stages of emotional development that are underwent by teenage girls are some of the most complex ones. The important thing to keep in mind in this case is for the parents to look into the way in which their daughter behaves, so that they will know how to respond to her needs properly. Making sure that the matters of the young girl are properly handled is very important, due to the fact that she may develop wrong emotions otherwise. All parents want their children to be happy, but when dealing with teenage girls and their emotional shifts, it can be rather difficult for some parents to stay calm and to measure their words and their actions first. Acting as mature and responsible adults is the best way to handle things, as the teenage girl must understand the role of the parents in this case and that she should listen to what grownups have to say. The phases which can be experienced by teenage girls are probably familiar to you. These are connected to the way in which the teenage daughter acts in front of her parents in general.


The phases of emotional development in teenage girls should be first of all treated with calm. More to this, parents feeling overwhelmed by the situation should know that there are some tips and tricks that can be used in order to make this period in the family life a pleasant one. 

Among the main phases of emotional development in teenage girls, we can count:

  • hissy fits;
  • ignorance;
  • lack of communication;
  • screaming;
  • taking up bad behaviors;
  • mood swings;
  • locking herself in her room;
  • becoming aggressive;
  • self-conscious issues.

In all these situations and in many more of the kind, parents have variants through which they can handle the situation. The most important thing in all these cases is for the parents to be able to control their own emotions in the face of their teenage daughter or else they will not be able to help her through the situation. Here are some tips on how to handle situations as such:

  • set limits on the ways in which your children are allowed to talk to you, so that you can be sure they will not burst into violent speaking;
  • give them all the alone time they require for calming down or simply for relaxing, if they want to talk to you they will come out;
  • support them in everything they do, without forgetting to show appreciation and to congratulate them on their successes.


These are the main ways through which you can handle the phases of emotional development in your teenage daughter. You have to remember that you are the mature adult and that you are the one that sets the example on how the young girl should act. The finality of the whole process lies in the better understanding between parents and daughter, so that they can be next to her throughout these phases. If you want to have a happy teenage daughter, you must find the perfect balance between showing her love and support, but also by allowing her to have private moments. You have to figure out when to become closer to her and when to leave her alone, according to the way in which she behaves during these phases. Many parents think that if they give their teenage daughter space, she will drift apart from them, but actually she will do just so if you don’t. Therefore, the thin line in the middle of giving her space and spending time with her is where you as parents will want to be. Getting to that point is not very easy, but it can be done. All you have to do is to analyze your daughter’s behavior and to make sure that you respond to it in the proper way.

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Raising A Happy Baby

Filed under: Tips And Tricks - 03 Jul 2012  | Spread the word !

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The emotional development of your child is very important from the moment you bring your baby to the world. In his first year, he mainly needs you to be there for him and to offer him not only love, but also comfort, confidence and encouragement. It is very important to communicate with your bundle of joy from the first moment, because you will influence his development. There are certain things you need to do for your baby in the first year of his life. One of the most important is to offer him responsive care and to pay attention to his needs. Be attentive to his language and learn what he is trying to say to you. Even if he will use no words, he will try to establish communication with you, as a mother. Build a relationship with him from the beginning. Bond with him and support him to develop his skills. For him, the world is a new place and he has to explore it in order to get to know it. Encourage him and teach him to overcome the challenges successfully.

Try to stay focused on his joys and share them with him. He will make a lot of discoveries in his first year and you need to be there to support him. Offer your baby help when he tries something new. At some point he will try to raise so-called buildings with his toys. Offer him all the the support and be active next to him. Spend with him as much time as you can and be affectionate. Show him your love through all the activities you two have, because this will encourage him. He will know that you are there for him no matter what new things he tries.

If you will show him unconditional love, he will feel safe and secure. Help him understand better your environment through music and images and in the same time show him affection. For a healthy emotional development, he needs to feel loved and to know that he can turn to mom for care and security anytime . Hug him, kiss him and hold him in your arms as much as possible. This will make your baby very confident because he will know you will always be there for him. Be being by his side all the time, you can be sure you will raise a happy baby.

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The Stages of Emotional Development According to Erik Erikson

Filed under: Emotional Development - 14 Jun 2012  | Spread the word !

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The way in which children and adolescents develop from an emotional point of view is very important for their adulthood life. According to psychiatrist Erik Erikson, there are eight emotional development stages that make up the socialization process. He calls them “the eight stages of man” and he came up with them in 1956. According to Erikson, each stage represents a psychosocial crisis that arises and demands resolution before the next stage enters the stage. He did not develop these stages through experimental work. His experience in psychotherapy regarding children and adolescents opened new horizons for him that helped him associate every development phase of a child with a stage which represents the foundation of the child’s further development.

The first stage, hope, is also known as learning basic trust versus basic mistrust and represents the infancy period through the first 1 or 2 years of life. In this stage, parents need to well handle, nurture and love their children in order for them to develop trust, security, and a basic optimism. If these aspects are badly handled, then children become insecure and mistrustful. This means that parents need to carefully cater to their children’s needs in order for them to grow up with a sense of trust. The second stage, will, is also known as learning autonomy versus shame and it occurs during early childhood. This stage usually begins when the child is 18 months old and goes on until the age of 4. In this stage, children are not able to fully associate autonomy with assured self-possession, independence and initiative. However, the stormy self-will, negativism and stubbornness begin to emerge.

In the third stage, known as purpose of learning initiative versus guilt, children learn how to imagine, broaden their skills by means of active play of all kinds, cooperate with others, lead, and follow. This stage occurs in preschool years. Guilt starts to make room and causes children to feel fearful, restricted, and dependent on adults. These were the first emotional development stages according to Erik Erikson. The other ones are industry versus inferiority (competence), learning identity versus identity diffusion (fidelity), learning intimacy versus isolation (love), learning generativity versus self-absorption (care), and integrity versus despair (wisdom). It is very important for parents to know and understand these emotional development stages to be able to raise their children properly and make good persons out of them.

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Issues And Occurrences For Emotional Development In Children

Filed under: Emotional Development - 03 Jun 2012  | Spread the word !

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The emotional development of children is the most important aspect all parents should be concerned about. However, in the society we live in today, many have the tendency to pass by these evolutions and simply to be unable to notice them. The instances which affect the majority of the population during their childhood years are the ones that can mark an entire existence. As a parent, you have to be concerned with the issues that affect the stability of your children in any way and you have to make sure that these matters are observed promptly and are dealt with before it is too late.

There are many ways in which the emotional stability of children can be affected. Starting with the first interactions they will have in the society, when they are not under the protective arms of their parents, and all the way to the entrance in the adult life, the moments that influence them negatively can become permanent scars. In the early years of life, having to deal with older and meaner children can be rather cruel for the majority. These are the factors that can lead to the timidity of children and to their lack of properly developed social skills. The influences may move on to the adolescence, when all the changes of the body can make teenagers shift in behavior several times and from one extreme to the other. These are just some of the reasons why the evolutionary process must be checked by parents.

The issues and the occurrences of emotional development in children are the effect of the relation with the exterior. Sometime, parents tend to believe that the emotional distress is caused by the activities happening outside of the home. However, it has been noted that the fights parents have or any other types of family problems can be even more negative triggers for the downfall in the emotional development of children. As all these things are considered, it is very hard for parents to do anything around their children. The most important thing is to be normal during the raising process and not to force yourself to act in a certain way, as at one moment in life children are bound to come across the issues you have kept from them. In the mean time, make sure to give your children the love and the appreciation they deserve for a good life.

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Stages of Emotional Development: School Years

Filed under: Emotional Development - 05 May 2012  | Spread the word !

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One of the most important stages in the emotional development of a child is represented by the school years. Similar to the adolescence, the beginning of school means a period of many changes for a child. This is when a young child will learn how to move from his play years to competency, entering a new environment, a demanding and formal one.

This stage of emotional development begins at the age of 6 and continues until the age of 12. School years, or the competency stage of emotional development, follow the play stage when children begin changing fantasy with active play and become more sociable. In the play stage of the emotional development, children also become proud of their own achievements, aspect which will continue to increase in the following years. Well, during the competency emotional development, children will continue the transition from fantasy to games, evolving to group activities or even sports. This is the period when kids begin to understand which are the bad and the good choices, experiencing the quit feeling. As during this stage of emotional development children also begin school, which can actually come as a shock for them, they will first enter into contact with formal regulations and will learn how to respect them, but also how to relate to the people in this new environment.

Starting with the age of 5, so during this stage of emotional development, children will also learn how to keep secrets and how to express their own emotions. However, keep in mind the fact that every child has his own social and emotional development, manifesting this behavior sooner or later. Starting with the age of 7 or 8, children will become more aware of their own feelings, desires or even thoughts, expressing even better emotions. This is part of the normal emotional development of your child, so you should not worry at all if your children start comparing themselves or their results with school colleagues or their friends. If they are not able to obtain similar results, children will begin to be concerned about their own abilities and capacities. As the academic preparedness of your child will continue, so will his emotional development until reaching the period of changes and struggles, naturally the adolescence.

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Emotional Development And NLP

Filed under: Emotional Development - 18 Apr 2012  | Spread the word !

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The emotional development starts even before we are born. The relationship that the baby has with his mother begins from the intrauterine life. After a few months of pregnancy, the little baby can hear and recognise the voice of his mother. Although he is not born yet, has this extraordinary ability. These many seem small things, but they are the start of what will be a closer relationship between the mother and her child. After birth, the emotional development of the baby continues. To be a positive emotional development, the little one has to stay with his mother soon after delivery. It will help him calm and feel safe. It is one of the most complex things that take place and is also one of the most important steps for a healthy emotional development of the baby.

Nonetheless, this is just the start of a more complicated emotional development process. Our emotional development goes on all our lives, but the most important phases take place during childhood. The family has the most important role and influence. Neuro-linguistic programming is a relatively new field, claiming that our emotional development consist of behavioural patterns that we have learned throughout time, but we can choose our emotions. This is a new and very interesting approach on emotional development that was created in the ’70s, but since then a lot of new things have been discovered and more and more people are interested in this field.

NLP is not recognised by many specialists as there are no scientific evidence and misleading terms and concepts. Nevertheless, many people believe that this new approach is helping them with their emotional development. A lot of books about emotional development and this new field have been published, some of them being very successful, while others very criticised. It is sure that the emotional development is the “engine” of our lives and we have to pay a lot of attention to it and to how it develops. It is a very delicate problem and many emotional problems start during childhood, so parents should also be very responsible.

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